1:40pm

Wed May 2, 2012
Can I Just Tell You?

Asking The Uncomfortable Questions

All week, we've been celebrating our fifth anniversary on the air. We actually hit that milestone on Monday, and we've been trying to have some fun with it — talking with 5-year-olds about what's fun about being 5; about five-year financial plans; and we checked in with some of the guests who were with us at the very beginning.

At this point, I realize you might be saying to yourself: Five? Big whoop! Come back to me when you're in double digits at least.

I can hear that. But I think the decision to acknowledge something or not is a dilemma all of us have at some point. I am often reminded of this when friends of a certain age tell me they would rather not celebrate a birthday — something I do not understand. I mean, consider the alternative.

But sometimes when you do get caught up in an event or celebration, you wonder whether you should.

I still think of the Democratic Convention in Los Angeles in 2000 where, because of the time difference and the programs I was working on, I often found myself up very early in the morning. As I headed to work, our route took us past what seemed like hundreds of people living under cardboard or plastic tarps. Now I'm not picking on Los Angeles, and I honestly don't even remember whether those folks I saw living in those encampments lived there all year-round or were there because of the convention.

What I do remember is wondering every morning whether all the money that was being spent on shrimp, sushi rolls, chauffeured cars and fabulous parties every night could have been better spent on keeping people out of those tents.

Can I just tell you? All these years later, I still can't answer that question to my satisfaction. Although I will tell you those were some of the best parties I ever attended in my life; and people who have earned their money have the right to spend it; and the amount of money that must have been spent on those parties — none of it mine — still takes my breath away .

At the end of the day, though, I figure we need bread and we need circuses. We need shelter and we need celebration. And yet, the dilemma remains over what exactly should be celebrated, and even over what should be talked about.

I will tell you that remains a daily debate. We listen and take to heart those who say that talking about a problem sometimes just makes it worse. But we also hold on to our abiding belief in the power of words to make things better.

When we first started this program, I said in my very first essay that we wanted to talk about the news and what's going on in your life, that we wanted to bring you the kinds of conversations you aren't hearing in other places, that we wanted to go around the world and to try to find out what's deep within your heart.

I said we'd deal with what some people called the third-rail issues of American life, issues like immigration, race, education, ethnicity, religion and so many of the other things that mark and sometimes divide us.

Why? I said then, and I say now, it's all part of the American story — because we are affected by those issues, whether we like it or not, whether we wish we were or not.

I said then, and I say now, that we want to talk about those things because they are real. Because it's where we live. Because when we refuse to ask the uncomfortable questions, we're missing an opportunity to understand the world as it is.

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Transcript

MICHEL MARTIN, HOST:

All this week we've been celebrating our fifth anniversary on the air. We actually hit that milestone on Monday, and we've been trying to have some fun with it, talking with five year olds about what's fun about being five, about five-year financial plans. And we checked in with some of the guests who were with us at the very beginning.

And at this point, I realize you might be saying to yourself - five? Big whoop. Come back to me when we're in double digits at least.

I can hear that. But I think the decision to acknowledge something or not is a dilemma all of us have at some point. I'm often reminded of this when friends of a certain age tell me they would rather not celebrate a birthday - something I do not understand. I mean, consider the alternative. But sometimes when you do get caught up in an event or celebration, you wonder whether you should.

I still think of the Democratic Convention in Los Angeles in 2000 where, because of the time difference and the programs I was working on, I often found myself up very early in the morning. And as I headed to work, our route often took us past what seemed like hundreds of people living under cardboard or plastic tarps. Now I'm not picking on Los Angeles, and I honestly don't even remember whether those folks I saw living in those encampments lived there all year round or were there because of the convention.

What I do remember is wondering every morning whether all the money that was being spent on shrimp and sushi rolls and chauffeured cars and fabulous parties every night could have been better spent on keeping people out of those tents.

Can I just tell you? All these years later, I still can't answer that question to my satisfaction. Although I will tell you those were some of the best parties I ever attended in my life; and people who have earned their money have the right to spend it; and the amount of money that must have been spent on those parties - none of it mine - still takes my breath away.

At the end of the day, though, I figure we need bread and we need circuses. We need shelter and we need celebration. And yet, the dilemma remains over what exactly should be celebrated, and even over what should be talked about.

I will tell you that remains a daily debate. We listen and take to heart those who say that sometimes talking about our problems sometimes just makes it worse. But we also hold on to our abiding belief in the power of words to make things better.

When we first started this program, I said in my very first essay that we wanted to talk about the news and what's going on in your life, that we wanted to bring you the kinds of conversations you aren't hearing in other places, that we wanted to go around the world and to try to find out what's deep within your heart.

I said we would deal with what some people called the third rail issues of American life, issues like immigration and race and education and ethnicity and religion and so many of the other things that mark and sometimes divide us.

Why? I said then, and I say now, it's all part of the American story - because we are affected by those issues, whether we like it or not, whether we wish we were or not.

I said then, and I say now, that we want to talk about those things because they are real, because it's where we live. Because when we refuse to ask the uncomfortable questions, we're missing an opportunity to understand the world as it is.

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MARTIN: And that's our program for today. Once a week we take time for credits, when we recognize the work of the TELL ME MORE staff. But because there are so many other people who help make this program possible that we decided we wanted to share our celebration with them. So all this week, you'll be hearing the names of the other talented NPR professionals who help bring TELL ME MORE to you. Today, we are thanking the administrative staff at NPR News.

And remember, to tell us more, please go to NPR.org and find us under the Programs tab. You can find our podcast there. You can also follow us on Facebook and Twitter @TellMeMoreNPR. I'm Michel Martin and you've been listening to TELL ME MORE from NPR News and the African-American Public Radio Consortium. Let's talk more tomorrow. Transcript provided by NPR, Copyright National Public Radio.

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